Friday, April 26, 2013

Afraid Again . . . Naturally




I am afraid. Again. An ordinary woman with extra ordinary concerns, surely more than the average female.
            The fear comes to greet me each time a child prepares to fly-be-free. Anxiety bids me to taste it and I obey, cannot resist though I know the flavor hasn’t changed, has not improved one whit since the last time.
            Afraid’s mouthfeel is that of rust, peat moss, a scab slicked by a child’s tongue then dried by the wind. Burnt Sienna Crayon flaked on a box grater. A crushed cigarette eaten with no water to wash it down.
            Is all fear—of life, not death—like this? Suffocating, strangling? Causing one to quake like corn kernels in a heated and covered pot, skittering frenetically in order to avoid death by drowning in high temperature olive oil (not canola oil as it is really RAPEseed oil).
            Surely death, or considerable damage at the very least, is inevitable if I grant my fists permission to unfurl. Instead I clutch my balled hands in my lap, relocate them after a time to beneath my thighs so as to prevent their becoming manacles around her delicate wrists, the means by which I hold her here, close to my heart, gasping for breath.
            All I want is one person to acknowledge my angst, recognize it as a higher form of love. I need someone to watch me cup my hand over my mouth to silence my sobs, my keening. Will someone please applaud as I murmur, “You can be anything, accomplish whatever you set your mind to. I’m sure of it.”
            For eighteen years I’ve known this was coming, the severance of a second umbilical cord, this one invisible—a rope of me, her, her papa, and God—encased in a gleaming moist sheath which is love. It thrums with the possibility that each goodbye may be the last. Unseen hands tug the strand from “gone forever” to “wildly successful and full of joy.”
            Someone please fetch that box over there, the one lacquered almost black with open heart pink satin lining. Inside I’ll arrange the grayed strips of paper which when ordered correctly read: I can take better care of her than she can, He can.
            Now I need a brick, a hammer, or a gun so I can obliterate the square in one fluid WHAM! Next I’ll locate a sheet of diaphanous yet metallic vellum and a pen with silver ink. At the dining room table I’ll make loops and swirls on scratch paper to guarantee flow then I’ll form calligraphy letters big as baby fingers: I TRUST. After I trim the statement, the affirmation, I’ll fold it again and again till it’s the size of a vein, a whisper.
            Where is the wee velvet box my husband snapped open on a pier over the ocean two decades plus ago? I’ll tuck my trust wisp into its white satin cleft, let the lid bite shut then nestle it at the bottom of a fireproof chest hidden in the secret place. Surely it, she, will be safe then . . . 

6 comments:

Optimistic Existentialist said...

I love this...very touching piece about your girl leaving the nest...?

writingdianet said...

Yes, Keith. Daughter number two. I am pierced even now, even though it's not till August. Must start stockpiling cloth handkerchiefs . . .

Catherine said...

Honey, I knew what this would be about before even opening it. The dread wells up in me at least half a dozen times a day...nothing Tums can quell. This must be something universal, shared not just among we parents but by our offspring. Like us, they say the words... that they are so excited...but inside it's just as terrifying for them. We will all make it, won't we?

writingdianet said...

Dear, dear friend, Catherine:

Deep does indeed call out to deep, doesn't it?

I know, I know, I know your pain, the counting down of the days, the squashing of your fears to allow the blooming of his explosive enthusiasm for his future. It's beautifully awful. And normal. But certainly, that does NOT mean we have to like it!

Love you, will hold you close in August! By then Dunkin's will be open close to where we Saturday Zumba. We'll spend some hours there, no doubt.

Know also that you are such a wonderful mom. What an excellent foundation you have built stone by stone for your handsome, bright, golden-throated son. Well done, Catherine. I'll say it again: Well done!

Jenny Selin said...

Beautiful images! Twists of thought, angst, and hopeful, a rope...

They do come home again as I know you know, maybe for a few days or longer and you can visit too...

But still there is the concern when they report in about adventures and near misses

writingdianet said...

Hey Jenny:)
Thanks for stopping by. Yeah, I know they come back now and again but it's never really the same, is it? Sigh . . .

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